Jenelle Evans is married. Please, just let that sink in.
If you have no idea who I’m talking about, she’s one of the infamous starts of Teen Mom 2, and you should Google her right now. THAT girl found a life partner (well, okay, let’s be fair…they will probably be divorced in a year, BUT STILL). I want to be upset about the fact that she’s married and I’m single, but you know, I just can’t be. Because even with all of the money she made by being a bad example on MTV, she still married a backwards hat loser. And you know how I feel about those guys.
Sometimes as single ladies we want to sit around a whine about our single status. We look at girls who we think have less to offer than we do, and yet, they are in relationships and we aren’t. How is this real life?!? But single ladies, gather all of your facts first. Look at who they are dating. Look at their situation. Relationship does not equal happy. Happy=Happy.
People sometimes ask me why I’m single (implying that I could easily find a guy to date) and I don’t always know how to answer. If you know me personally, then you know that aspects of my love life are messier than the Jell-o wrestling matches at the Cotton Eyed Joe on Wednesday nights (let me clarify that I can only assume those are messy. I’ve never been). So it’s a tricky question all by itself. But the truth is, I don’t want to settle. I could name 5 guys off the top of my head that I could “date” if I wanted to right now. They would take me to dinner and attempt to entertain me with conversation and then attempt to take me home. But I want someone who thinks my soul is more beautiful than my outward appearance. And I want someone who is going to stick around for the long haul. I’ve said this a million times but I want REAL ridiculous love. And that means waiting– quite possibly forever.
“Being single used to mean that nobody wanted you. Now it means you’re pretty, sexy, & you’re taking your time deciding how you want your life to be & who you want to spend it with.” — Sex & the City
I have a friend who always says stuff like, ‘Even she’s married,’ about other girls we know. I keep reminding her that she wouldn’t date that girl’s husband – let alone marry him, so why shouldn’t he have married someone else! No point settling. Just wait your turn for someone truly amazing! ~ Abbie
i think a lot of girls (including myself at times) think that people are automatically happy when they’re in a relationship. so your line “Relationship does not equal happy. Happy=Happy.” is something we should all remind ourselves.
thank you for posting this!
I face the same hurdle: patience. One day we’ll meet a guy who is worthy of us having patience. One day.
Even my horoscope told me this morning that I will have impatience in my romantic relationships. I think it’s a hurdle that we all face, because society tells us that we need to be in a relationship headed toward marriage to be “happy”. I’m finally realizing that I am the happiest I’ve been in a long time because I’m NOT focused on being happy in a relationship!
I think that’s brilliant! Everyone tells me that if I’m not dating someone to potentially marry him, then why date him in the first place? I’m sitting there thinking to myself, well, because I want to have fun, damnit! I want to be happy and not worry about the stress of “is he husband material.” I’m not even 20 yet!